We are pushed right from an early age to achieve, to get things right, to be perfect. Not to fail.
But what do we learn from getting things right everytime?
Think about your own life. When have you learnt the most? When you succeeded or when you failed and had to try again?
Our society demands perfection. It needs us to get things right first time every time.
But where is the fun in that?
This video from one of my favourite vloggers got me thinking about failure. I too want my children to know that failing isn’t the end of the world.
I want my children to know that there are far more things to be learned from putting yourself out there and failing than doing what you know because you know how to do it.
Pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zone is something far too many of us never do because we are scared to fail.
What is so wrong in failing?
When we fail, what is the worst that can happen?
Obviously, I’m not talking about anything life or death. What I am talking about is taking risks, trying new things, going for what we want.
There are so many things I haven’t done throughout my life as I have been scared to fail, what a lot of missed opportunities for me to grow as a person.
This attitude has rubbed off on my children too. They are too afraid to try things in case they fail. One prime example of this was last Friday night.
My youngest has just finished playing his first season of football. Unfortunately, the team he’s been playing with have split up, but a few of them had the chance to try out for a new team in a friendly match.
He decided just before the game that he didn’t want to go as he didn’t think he’d get picked.
I tried explaining to him that it was important for him to try as he could use the experience to learn from and how did he know he wouldn’t get picked. No matter how much I tried explaining that it didn’t matter whether he got in or not, he wouldn’t go. He was afraid to fail.
I think in this case it was more him being afraid of getting his feelings hurt, which at 9 years old is understandable, yet I wish he had just tried and seen what happened.
Push the comfort zone
Every time I have pushed myself to leave my comfort zone, the results have surprised me. Regardless of whether I have been successful or failed, I am always amazed at what I have learnt about myself and others.
Through failing we know what we are capable of now and what we need to learn to move on in the future.
Are you afraid to fail?